Break out the candy hearts and rose bouquets (if you're into that sort of thing) because Valentine's Day is right around the corner... No, really, it's literally just DAYS away... You know, in case you haven't seen or heard every single advertisement over the past month or so. If by some miracle you've managed to avoid the, and are at all concerned about your lack of economic impact this V-Day season, not to worry. A recent study showed that approximately 61.8% of consumers celebrate the Valentine's Day holiday. The United States alone expects to rake in approximately 27.4 BILLION (yes, billion with a B) dollars in sales for items pertaining to the February 14th holiday. I don't think we need to break down the math to understand that that's a whole lot of people spending a whole lot of money. Which is wonderful if the day brings you joy and you're giving a gift out of the goodness of your heart. I'm all for a sweet gesture, but this discovery lead me down the rabbit hole of all-things Valentine's Day, and let me tell you, the history of this holiday is a bit wild.
I won't bore you with all the gory details (and believe me when I say that some of the details are, in fact, pretty gory) but I will tell you that the day officially became a romantic holiday after being Christianized in the 1300's. At the time, many believed that birds started their mating season on February 14th – hence the lovey-dovey theme surrounding the holiday. But while the day can be a fun and flirty occasion, perhaps the date on a calendar shouldn't have to tell us to show love and affection to our partner or remind us to show appreciation for the love that they give to us... Just a thought.
According to another study, the pressure to find the perfect gift, arrange the perfect date, and set the perfect evening mood on one particular day of the year can actually have a negative affect on the health of our relationships. When we set expectations, we can easily forget what it means to give and receive genuine love. Often times, the real thing doesn't come in the form of a bouquet or a heart-shaped box, nor does it come with a date stamp. Sometimes it comes in the form of french fries or a box of tissues when you have a cold. Does this mean gifts and celebration are a negative thing? Absolutely not. As stated previously, if the day brings you joy and you're giving a gift out of the goodness of your heart, then who am I to tell you not to? So long as we remember what and why we are celebrating, I think we're on the right track.
However, on the flip side of things, many people who are not in relationships find the holiday offensive, obnoxious, and down right annoying. We all have a friend – or maybe we are or have previously been the friend – who vehemently despises Valentine's Day. Recently, a poll showed that over 40% of single people think the holiday should be cancelled altogether. With the commercialization of the holiday comes an overwhelming pressure to be coupled-up when the big ONE-FOUR approaches. You can't turn on the radio or even walk outside your own door without being bombarded with Valentine's Day advertisements, promoting the luxuries of companionship, so it's no wonder so many un-coupled people want the day to be done and over with. I get it, I do. Because of this, I've witnessed a rising trend that encourages people to buy gifts and plan dates for themselves... This isn't a new concept by any means, but it is becoming more and more common, especially among women.
I am fully on board with people pampering and spoiling themselves, rather than loathing the day and filling themselves with such misery. You, my friend, are worthy and capable of being your own Valentine!
So, whether you are coupled-up or not, whatever way you choose to celebrate, I hope you'll take the time to reflect on what and why you are giving your energy to this occasion. Remember that a date on a calendar does not replace the time and effort it takes to propel a relationship forward. Remember that your value is not depicted by whether or not you are in a romantic partnership. Remember that, at its core, the day is about LOVE. There is no right or wrong way to celebrate or express your affection, when it comes from a place of true love. You can wrap it in a box of chocolates or in a blanket on the couch and it will still be treasured as a precious gesture.
I hope that you've found this post enlightening in any way and that you will approach your 2020 year with love and compassion for yourself and for others. We would love to know whatever it is that you're working on this year. Leave us a comment on the Mountain Yoga Studio Facebook page or send us a message and let us know about the path you've taken.
1) The trees have been taken down and school is back in session, which means it is time to make the transition from the holidays to the new year. We are always updating our schedule for the changing seasons, so keep your eyes peeled and your mind open to the endless possibilities of your practice.
2) One of our teachers and brightest yogis, Jessica Cenotti, has brought her vision to life and made some special goodies for all of your self care needs. Packed with nourishing essential oils, and wrapped in quality packaging, all of her Witch Doctor products can be found in the studio, with sample-goodies available for testing.
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